I love witticisms and quotes and I must say that there is no better place to hear them than a recovery meeting. Some are real knee-slappers and others are very deep, even profound. I even came up with a new word…me-gotist. I had heard someone once say: “when I came to recovery, all I thought about was me, me, me…but now I only think about me.” Of course that indicated that they were improving, not so many thoughts of themself. After many years of addictions to alcohol and drugs, it really takes a lot of time to return to focused thinking about anyone but ourselves because of our compulsions to drink and dope.
There was a saying that I found very dark when I entered AA meetings. “It isn’t what you think about me that matters, it’s what I think about you that matters.” This is one of those sayings I thought was me-gotistical, but it isn’t. In time, I understood and today I find this statement rather profound. The thought that it has become important to me, how I see you, is a major change for any alcoholic or addict. We normally don’t care about anyone for any reason outside of our families and dealer or bartender. We also cared that we were viewed by others as a good person, until we were so hooked that only using and boozing mattered.
Through simple sayings, I was able to see myself and what I had become as a me-gotist. I asked God to make the necessary changes in me to be others minded, for the rest of my life. The realization that my view of others actually drives me to grow into the image of Christ, get outside of myself, and give attention to the needs of others, is liberating and purposeful for life. This is where joy is found, this is serene and surrendered living.
“But we have this treasure in earthen vessels (Christ in us), that the excellence of the power may be of God and not of us.” 2 Cor.4:7 “…He died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves, but for Him who died for them and rose again.” 5:15
For me to be able to serve others that have the same problems I have, to enjoy doing so, proves to me that God is, and God cares for everyone. I am one of many that have experienced this change from darkness, only hearing dark words from others in the dark, to words of brilliant light from people free of the gloom of hopelessness. We have hope. Here is an exerpt from Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book that promises this:
“As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day ‘Thy will be done.’ We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions. We become much more efficient. We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves. It works, it really does.” pg.87-88
From hearing some seedling words in a recovery meeting to thriving faith to live, these words from the dark side have brought light to many. Thanks for reading, God bless and keep you all. Keith