We hear the word “empower” regarding children and education. This term is a word of the age, another word that eventually goes to the “out” file. Words like “surreal” have lost popularity and at the end of this year, empowerment will join thewords losing popularity. The reason for the use of this word and its meaning, to give authority or power to, is the attempt to improve the attitude and future outlook through positive input.
Does it work? We empower the youth today through programs and activities that will help them rise above their parents, and achieve a higher lifestyle or obtain higher goals in life. The government of this country does the same thing through programs designed to help the people receiving their assistance, or through legislation to “improve” public education. It is a term that works for parent-child relationships, but not so well with government intrusion on the life of the people. Making laws to improve behavior reflects failure of the culture, an ignorance of the people, that lawmakers think they must “fix.” You cannot legislate behavior, morals, or belief, but the government tries.
It is good for the parent to teach their child that they have the power to say no to drug use, alcohol, pre-marital sex, and to crimes that ensue. However, there must be a basis of belief, and that there is an eternal consequence for our behaviors, both good and bad. We can empower the young with how they were fearfully and wonderfully made by a Creator that loves them, and expects them to use their talents and abilities with gusto, and knowledge that wasting their life can ruin their eternity. Not choosing to teach the children allows someone to do that job resulting in their remaining powerless, having no ability to say no to any desire no matter how evil.
“Lord, make me to know my end, and what is the measure of my days, that I
may know how frail I am. Indeed, You have made my days as handbreaths, and my age as nothing before You; certainly every man at his best state is but a vapor”…..Selah. Ps.39:4-5
Powerlessness is our lot from birth. Babies are totally helpless and need constant care. The failed empowered individual is like a baby needing attention anew. This is the danger of trying to empower a child to believe they are just as good as the next person. If they have a friend at school who excels at math, and you tell them they are just as good as their math-wiz friend, you are setting up their failure. To tell the youth that they can become as good as their classmate in math, is different altogether. The first step to success is the understanding of powerlessness. AA, NA. Celebrate Recovery, all of these programs have the same step one in their 12 step program.
Principle one: Realize I’m not God. I admit that I am powerless to control my tendency to do the wrong thing and that my life is unmanageable. Celebrate Recovery’s version.
We go to great pains to make our children feel special, especially when we ourselves have begun our healing process from addictions. We do not want them to follow our misguided path. The greatest gift you can give your child is honesty. Be honest in every endeavor in life, teach them that they are human, flawed, and need to develop skills and abilities with work and experience. Give them real empowerment by telling them they are powerless in many areas, and need help to improve. This is a great gift to realize that we are not an island, we need God’s help, each other’s help.
You may be going through some really difficult times, not knowing where or who to turn to. Family life may be off-kilter, no personal time together, or separation. There may be bad news from a doctor, there may be severe depression, addictions, even a consequence you’re facing from bad actions. No matter what you are facing today, God holds today, He has a wonderful plan for you. You only have to receive his help available by merely asking Him, and realize that you are powerless to fix it. He then can empower you. He may direct you to Celebrate Recovery, or Al-anon, AA, NA, or some other place or person for help. Be willing, forget your pride and don’t deny it any longer…that is you trying to control the situation. Freedom is waiting, there is real life for you and I to live.
Thanks for reading, God bless and keep you all.