In my book, Under The Influence, I wrote of the importance of doing the little things consistently. By doing the small daily tasks, the larger things become smaller and easier to do. That is, we learn diligence by doing something, even small and seemingly insignificant, as opposed to doing nothing, yet still expecting something to happen. When nothing is acted upon, small or large, something does happen, we sink deeper into sloth, procrastination, and self-loathing.
I have recently struggled hard with many issues in life. Of late, I have not taken my own advice and avoided many of these little issues. That is a dark place for anyone who is a recovering addict or alcoholic.
Making a to-do list before lying down at night is relatively simple. Asking God to help me stay sober each morning, turning my will and life over to Him each day is a snap. Taking five minutes to read a short page from a devotional isn’t difficult either. Each small task can become a monumental task in my mind. That happens only because I stop making these life changers a habit.
Every time I see someone in relapse-mode, or actively back doing what destroyed them before, I think, “why are they”…..you fill in the rest of the sentence. I want to jerk them up by the hair if available, and say, “what’s wrong with you!” But inside myself I get a “spiritual jolt” saying, “they stopped doing those little things they did to get sober…just like I am doing now.” My immediate anger for their downfall turns into gratitude for the little reminders God sends me.
Think, Plan, Act
Maybe you are there now. Take a moment to examine your recent actions, think about recent thoughts or confrontations with others. When you were actively working on your recovery, thoughts and actions controlled your temper. Spiritual fitness was your daily aim. Are you still there? Think about where you are now. Plan, your next meeting, pray for God’s help right now. Act on your thoughts and plans. Return to humility, remember how you came to sober living.
Or maybe someone you know has stopped going to recovery meetings and you notice a change in their behavior. What action should you take? Walk the razor’s edge. Don’t start-up a conversation that directly points out their obvious slide downhill. The way of wisdom would be to ask them about how they got sober in the first place, or ask them what recovery meetings are like. Use a little imagination.
In most cases, they will appreciate your interest. People like to talk about themselves, and they will probably say something like, “I need to get to some meetings, I have been skipping and slipping lately.” If you are really concerned, ask them to take you to an open meeting. Showing genuine interest is a motivator, and by your taking a few moments and having real concern, you may save them from full-blown relapse.
Little reminders are of major importance. If you are struggling in sobriety, do a check-up from the neck-up, a run for help today.
Thanks for reading, God bless and keep you all.