The Mighty Fall

We think one person has developed to the place in recovery that they are above temptation’s ability to deceive them. Our admiration of such a person places them as heroic in our minds. Then, this mountain of stability takes a major tumble into relapse. Some of us are quick to point out why, in a judgmental pose from our own perch. Others say, what’s my chance to stay clean and sober when someone with their knowledge of sober living comes  to this? They go ahead and give up, and relapse. “What’s the use?” they ask.

We cannot be deceived to think we are too full of recovery smarts that we cannot fall. Relapse can come from many sources, in ways unexpected. The first way is pride. The thought that we do not need to go to meetings regularly.

Never think that you have paid the price and can’t see the need to get to meetings. Prideful people are very fast to judge other’s sobriety. I really feel pride has such a negative impact on an individual that it’s presence affects the spiritual plane of our existence, causing one to face the weaknesses they see in others.

Another biggie is complacency. This little booger is closely related to pride. The difference is the complacent individual is awareness they aren’t above relapse. Their issue is not “feeling” like going, not feeling like reading positive materials, or praying, or helping others. This kills most people’s recovery about a year, more or less, ahead of the actual fall back into their addiction.

Procrastination, the five syllables of death has ruined the recovery of many. Putting off working the steps to recovery, or doing the next right thing because they are so loaded down with other tasks they cannot see a meeting, calling their sponsor, or helping a neighbor, etc.

Also, some are laden with consequences from the past. They try too hard to “fix” or undo their past by taking on the bigger problems. If unsuccessful, they just quit. Do little things first, the big ones will become easier as each little problem solved builds confidence.

Religion can be a bad thing for a person choosing to go the church attendance route instead of AA, NA, GA, CR, etc. I am all for church attendance for aiding recovery. Keep this in mind; Recovery meetings teach you how to recover from your addictions, help you understand and accept and surrender what you have become, and help you learn to deal with consequences.

Church meetings can reinforce and help with these problems, but it is highly doubtful the weekly sermon will be about your recovery. Many take this route because of pride, not wanting anyone to know they are anything other than a sinner, not a weak, out-of-control addict or drunk.

There are other things that bring down the mightiest of recovering individuals. For your information, I don’t have these thoughts from just observing others. I have, and still do face many of these issues personally. My enemy, or addiction is me. Self- serving is my real problem, addictions to anything are side effects.

For all of us working our recovery, don’t get too smart. Don’t be dishonest of where you are when things are awry. Total honesty is an admission that may save us from pride, complacency, and putting off recovery. The season of joy is here when we celebrate the birth of Christ, and welcome the new year. Humbly ask God’s help for understanding the purpose of Christ’s coming, and the purpose He has for you today, the upcoming year, and direction to keep you from falling.

What do you think? What would you add as a reason for relapse?

8 thoughts on “The Mighty Fall

    • Thanks for taking the time to read my attempts to write what the Holy Spirit inspires. I think, maybe over-think I don’t get enough views to take the time to bother with these posts. But there are more reading them besides the few likes and fewer comments. (normally yourself and Pastor Byers, and Wendy) That proves my alcoholic past…lol. We alcoholics and former alcoholics have a terrible tendency to suffer self-pity too! In reality, people do not like to make comments or “like” blogs in this genre. They may be viewed as an addict or alcoholic by pushing the like button or making a comment. On my main site, Under His Influence, according to the stat board, over 500 people read this post. On this site, less than 20. If only one reads, and receives the help…I’m grateful. That has been my feelings from the devotional I wrote as well. God forgive my silly feelings of wasting time! Only in heaven will we know our impact. I am so grateful for being blessed to play a small part, and even more grateful for your encouragement…it has kept me going. I want you to know that now, before we meet in heaven! Thanks for your posts as well, the poems aren’t simple though, they are from the heart and from the Greater One in you. Blessings to you Debbie!

  1. It has been over 17 years since I gambled Kieth and I have no desire to do so as I shared with you before, I did so without going to G.A which just reinforced the Addiction and fear of failure because like many others the G.A group I went to had replaced Jesus Christ with a Higher power or a God of our own understanding and this is why many fail to recover completely and go back to their Addiction, Spiritual adultery is a sin.

    It was my Christian Families Support and encouragement that helped me to recover completely from the scars of my Addiction which was a sickness in my spirit that had a hold on me for many years. After my deliverance and this was through an Elder who anointed me when I came to heart repentance and God showed His forgiveness at that time by Miraculously healing me of two life threatening conditions.

    James 5 :14-16 Is any sick among you? let him call for the elders of the Church; and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord: And the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him. Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

    Yes there is a warning, some people in Churches may condemn you even after being forgiven by God and others are also battling their own Addictions but this has more to do with their understanding of who they are in Christ Jesus, only He can give the Victory as we follow His guidelines not mans.

    Anything that replaces God including A.A groups etc, no matter how good they are, will eventually end in defeat, one Addiction will be replaced by another, sometimes more than one. After I was delivered from my Addiction I went back to the GA groups for a short time wanting to share the Hope I had but there was not much interest, one woman said to me she was not going to share her god with anyone including Jesus, he belonged to her. I ended up starting a GA group in our Church and Ron did Gammon which is for the friends and families of gamblers, thankfully some started to come to our Church and became Christians.

    I don’t think the AA groups etc are a total waste of time, God can use them and some people become friends and help each other but a lot puff up the flesh as they mostly focus on self. They need to get back to using the original 12 step program like I did in my Groups, it has the right foundation – JESUS CHRIST.

    Christian Love from us both – Anne

    • Thanks Anne for the comments and thoughts on the topic. I agree about the AA meetings and those with self-focus issues. I nearly stopped AA altogether due to that very problem. God had other plans however. I realized that no matter how irked I was over their behavior, there were new people coming frequently that needed what I had to give, and to hear how dying to self-service is liberating. I had to ignore those who couldn’t seem to overcome themselves. God used them for my behalf to act as a mirror for my own me-gotism that I needed to die to. Today I just suit up and show up, letting God do what He does through me.

      Glad to hear you have a GA group at your church…a problem greatly overlooked here, and just as deadly. Still praying and believing for Ron to receive the Healer’s touch!

      Sorry for the slow response, working 12 hr days, 7 days per week. Godspeed and blessings to you both! Keith

      • Thank you Keith for you prayers, Ron is being operated on now and yes I’m patiently waiting to hear or at least seeking to be patient.

        Ron retired from Pasturing the Church in Sydney and we came to live in Queensland to be close to his family so we no longer run G.A groups but I have helped those addicted privately and will continue to do so when there is a need. Hopefully peoples eyes will be opened and they will no longer walk in darkness letting their Carnal flesh control them but will put it to death by The Spirit as they choose to walk in Jesus’ Light.

        Blessings – Anne.

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